What gives you that power over me to dictate the decisions I
should and should not be making?
By Kate Louise Potenzano
Who are you to tell me what to wear? How to act in public? What
to look like?
I stumbled across this quote one of the times I was
procrastinating this assignment on Tumblr.
“My underwear doesn’t have to match. I don’t have to shave my
legs for you. My tits are not yours to cover up. I’ll get whatever the f*** I
want tattooed. I’ll go shirtless if I feel like it. I’ll wear a balaclava if I
feel like it. I’ve only got two parents and both of them recognize my
independence. See, the part you are missing is that I’m a human being and not
property. Stop telling girls what they can and can’t do, they are not yours to
own. If your boyfriend or girlfriend doesn’t like your body and what you do
with it, let them find another one. If they tell you you’re fat, grab your
pudge in the mirror and tell yourself you are fucking fabulous. If they tell
you that your piercing is stupid, rip theirs out. If they tell you that you
can’t have your tits out, ask them where the deed to your body is hidden so you
can burn it. Stop being nice to people who offend you. If you’re angry, let
them have it. You don’t owe anyone a smile and a polite nod.”[1]
Person A should not be telling Person B how to live their life
just to make Person A happy. People should live to make themselves happy, I'm
not saying just walk all over everyone else in the world just to make yourself
smile but if that skimpy tank top makes you feel confident, rock it.
After accidently finding that quote, I somehow managed to find
an article titled “23 Trends Guys Hate (but Women love!)”. It gives us a list
of the latest popular fashion trends that the male species apparently hate, but
women are supposed to care because apparently we dress for them (according to
the article at least).[2] The creators of this post
also put a quote from a male under a picture example of the look. We, as
people, live on average 70+ years, why waste them striving to make the other
sex believe that we are aesthetically pleasing? It is repugnantly belittling to
change ourselves, not wearing clothes we WANT to just because someone of the
opposite sex says they don’t want to look at it. According to the poll the
authors took on the males, women shouldn’t wear floppy hats OR beanies, so
excuse me while I let my head freeze and the sun get in my face.2
Women should also not wear boots, heels, or fashion sneakers, so I’m guessing I
should just wear flip flops all year round.
“Ditch these trends ladies, your man will be much happier!” Are
you kidding me? My “man” should like me for me. In a partnership the
significant other should care about what is on the inside, looks are just a
bonus.
Especially regarding relationships, a boyfriend should not
control their girlfriend to the point they tell them what to wear and what not
to wear, same goes for girlfriends to boyfriends. Yes, significant others
should be able to give their opinion but should at least respect their
partner’s wishes. I was in a really unhealthy relationship my senior year of
high school. My boyfriend repeatedly would tell me not to wear jeans, wear
leggings instead. Wear high socks, wear hoop earrings, dress more like
this person, act more like that person. If you want me to be like other people,
why are you with me?
[1] Hola (blog), January 2, 2014. http://foodisallweneed.tumblr.com/post/72077932101/my-underwear-doesn’t-have-to-match-i-don’t-have
(Accessed January 25 ,2014)
[2] Krupnick, Ellie.”23 Trends Guys Hate (But
Women Love).” Huff Post Style (blog),
November 18,2013. http://huffintonpost.com/2013/11/18/clothing-guys-hate_n_4293315.html
(accessed January 28, 2014)
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